Obtaining the "dream"!

DREAMS!

My first dream is become a teacher.

My second dream is to be an entrepeneur.


TOUCHTONES!

• I want to be a teacher because children is one of my passions. I want to help children better themselves in school by taking the time to actually listen to their school related problems and going the extra mile to make sure they understand the material better. I can imagine the feeling of accomplishment recieved when a child has left my class feeling like they have really learned and understood the material taught that day. I want to help children to become more confident with the notion that they can succeed in school and life as long as they never give up.


• Firstly I should explain the type of businesses I want to own. I want my own hair shop and I want to open a children's center. The reason for the hair salon because styling hair is my other passion. Right now i do it for fun, but eventually I want my own salon. The reason for the children's center is because nowadays there are way too many killings among the youth, so children need a "safe haven" after school instead of being on the street. I want to have a place for children (of all ages) to come to after school for misc. things. Children can work on their homework or getting tutoring. The children's center will not be solely dedicated to educational purposes because I believe children should be well-rounded individuals. I want my children's center to be a place where children can explore their talents, i.e. dancing, singing, drawing, palying an instrument, etc.

Over all my touchtone is my passion for helping others.

ROLE MODEL!

I really don't have a specific person that I look up to or I would call my "role model." What inspires me to do better is the criticsm i get that says I can't do something or I won't do something. A few people around me think that I will not succeed because I dont do things their way. The negativity motivates me to besides my own determination.

TARGET!

When I first step into my own classroom on the first day of school, I will officially be a teacher! :) Also when I see my shops name outside a building, I will be a salon owner! :)

ClaireLacey♥

Myers-Briggs Test (ESFJ)

My results of the Myers-Briggs test was ESFJ: Extraverted Sensing Feeling Judging(Extraverted Feeling with Introverted Sensing.)

The Caregiver
As an ESFJ, your primary mode of living is focused externally, where you deal with things according to how you feel about them, or how they fit in with your personal value system. Your secondary mode is internal, where you take things in via your five senses in a literal, concrete fashion.
ESFJs are people persons - they love people. They are warmly interested in others. They use their Sensing and Judging characteristics to gather specific, detailed information about others, and turn this information into supportive judgments. They want to like people, and have a special skill at bringing out the best in others. They are extremely good at reading others, and understanding their point of view. The ESFJ's strong desire to be liked and for everything to be pleasant makes them highly supportive of others. People like to be around ESFJs, because the ESFJ has a special gift of invariably making people feel good about themselves.
The ESFJ takes their responsibilities very seriously, and is very dependable. They value security and stability, and have a strong focus on the details of life. They see before others do what needs to be done, and do whatever it takes to make sure that it gets done. They enjoy these types of tasks, and are extremely good at them.
ESFJs are warm and energetic. They need approval from others to feel good about themselves. They are hurt by indifference and don't understand unkindness. They are very giving people, who get a lot of their personal satisfaction from the happiness of others. They want to be appreciated for who they are, and what they give. They're very sensitive to others, and freely give practical care. ESFJs are such caring individuals, that they sometimes have a hard time seeing or accepting a difficult truth about someone they care about.
With Extraverted Feeling dominating their personality, ESFJs are focused on reading other people. They have a strong need to be liked, and to be in control. They are extremely good at reading others, and often change their own manner to be more pleasing to whoever they're with at the moment.
The ESFJ's value system is defined externally. They usually have very well-formed ideas about the way things should be, and are not shy about expressing these opinions. However, they weigh their values and morals against the world around them, rather than against an internal value system. They may have a strong moral code, but it is defined by the community that they live in, rather than by any strongly felt internal values.
ESFJs who have had the benefit of being raised and surrounded by a strong value system that is ethical and centered around genuine goodness will most likely be the kindest, most generous souls who will gladly give you the shirt off of their back without a second thought. For these individuals, the selfless quality of their personality type is genuine and pure. ESFJs who have not had the advantage of developing their own values by weighing them against a good external value system may develop very questionable values. In such cases, the ESFJ most often genuinely believes in the integrity of their skewed value system. They have no internal understanding of values to set them straight. In weighing their values against our society, they find plenty of support for whatever moral transgression they wish to justify. This type of ESFJ is a dangerous person indeed. Extraverted Feeling drives them to control and manipulate, and their lack of Intuition prevents them from seeing the big picture. They're usually quite popular and good with people, and good at manipulating them. Unlike their ENFJ cousin, they don't have Intuition to help them understand the real consequences of their actions. They are driven to manipulate other to achieve their own ends, yet they believe that they are following a solid moral code of conduct.
All ESFJs have a natural tendency to want to control their environment. Their dominant function demands structure and organization, and seeks closure. ESFJs are most comfortable with structured environments. They're not likely to enjoy having to do things which involve abstract, theoretical concepts, or impersonal analysis. They do enjoy creating order and structure, and are very good at tasks which require these kinds of skills. ESFJs should be careful about controling people in their lives who do not wish to be controlled.
ESFJs respect and believe in the laws and rules of authority, and believe that others should do so as well. They're traditional, and prefer to do things in the established way, rather than venturing into unchartered territory. Their need for security drives their ready acceptance and adherence to the policies of the established system. This tendency may cause them to sometimes blindly accept rules without questioning or understanding them.
An ESFJ who has developed in a less than ideal way may be prone to being quite insecure, and focus all of their attention on pleasing others. He or she might also be very controling, or overly sensitive, imagining bad intentions when there weren't any.
ESFJs incorporate many of the traits that are associated with women in our society. However, male ESFJs will usually not appear feminine at all. On the contrary, ESFJs are typically quite conscious about gender roles and will be most comfortable playing a role that suits their gender in our society. Male ESFJs will be quite masculine (albeit sensitive when you get to know them), and female ESFJs will be very feminine.
ESFJs at their best are warm, sympathetic, helpful, cooperative, tactful, down-to-earth, practical, thorough, consistent, organized, enthusiastic, and energetic. They enjoy tradition and security, and will seek stable lives that are rich in contact with friends and family.
Jungian functional preference ordering:
Dominant: Extraverted FeelingAuxiliary: Introverted SensingTertiary: Extraverted IntuitionInferior: Introverted Thinking



I think the profile describes me very well. Some parts I dnt totally agree with but they are not far fetched.

ClaireLacey♥

CHO-CO-LAT!

Soo i watched this movie in class call Chocolat. I definitely thought i would not not like that movie but i was totally wrong!

The movie was about this woman who moved to this town that had soo many rules and she there at the start of lent. She opened a shop that sold all things chocolate. The mayor of the town tought of her as a sinner because she didnt go to church and he wanted her out of his town. He tried his best to get the people of his town to go against her. All the while she continued to try to befriend the people of her new town trying to make them happy with her exquisite chocolate.

I particularly liked the new comer of the town because she wasn't like the others. She didn't stress herself trying to follow the rules in order to keep the "leader" happy. She followed her own path, making her own way. She did what she wanted and didn't care what ridicule she would get from it. She was her own leader and had her own voice.

ClaireLacey♥

Understanding Myself...

Exercise 4: Pick a Color

I am black. I am mysterious and subtle. I am very intriguing. I am quiet, intelligent, and super fun! I am black, very dark and not easy to see through.


Exercise 5: The Private-Eye Game

After investigating my entire dorm room I've come to a few conclusions. I can't say that im really surpriised by the conclusions, then again my conclusions may be a little bias since i know my personality.

I've concluded that the person who lives here is somewhat organized but not totally. She has a few misplaced things here and there but nothing too major.

You cant really tell from the room if the person is socialble or a loner, but i would conclude sociable because this person has a lot of clothes and more than few pairs of shoes, which could mean she likes to go out and flaunt.

I would say this person has to be somewhat intellectual (afterall, she is in college!). She has a few of her text books laying around open.

It doesnt seem as though she likes to read much because there are no books around.

By looking at the clothes in the closet which is 99% of just jeans and some shirts, it is apparent that her sense of style is regular, not too flashy, just subtle.

There are a few movies laying around so maybe watching movies is one of her favorite past times.

I noticed a lot of hair products and a mannequin head which tells me this person enjoys styling hair.



Exercise 6: Seeing Yourself as Others See YOu (my cheering section)

Barack Obama (father): Claire is a very intelligent and bright young lady. She loves learning and exploring new levels of intellect. I see a very prominent future for Claire because of her determination to succeed. When placed with a challenge, no matter how hard, she trys her best to defeat the challenge.

"Claire Huxtable" (mother): I love Claire's sense of humor. She is always laughing and knows how to make you smile even when you're having a bad day. Claire is very charismatic and spontaneous. She is such a people person and everyone enjoys her company.

Keyshia Cole (sister): Claire is very head-strong. When people tell her she can't do something, she works overtime to prove them wrong. I love the way she loves helping people. She does not mind going the extra mile to hep others in need, whether it be a ear for listening or a shoulder to cry on, she is there for you.

Exercise 7: Twenty Things I Like to Do!

1) Reading novel: sometimes it's free and sometimes it cost, i haven't read a novel since July, I do this activity alone, most times it is planned, there is no physical risk, it is not job related, when very interested in the book I read fairly fast, I think it's more of a mind thing.

2)Writing: it is totally free, the last time i wrote was friday, it was school related, i do this activity alone, when I write it is mostly spontaneous, there is no physical risk, when I am really into what I am writing it becomes fast paced, writing frees my mind of lingering thoughts

3)Listening to Music: this activity is free, the last time I listened to music was friday, it is not job related, sometimes I listen to music with people other times I listen to music alone, This activity is more spontaneous than planned, there is no physical risk, it is slow paced, listening to music helps me free my mind, it also helps my body get exercise b/c i like to dance to music, it can also be spiritual if im listening to gospel music

4)Walking: it is free, the last time i took a walk was yesterday, it is not job related, sometimes i walk with others and sometimes i do it alone, when i take walks it is more spontaneous, there is no physical risk, when i take walks it is more slow paced, walking helps me free my mind b/c i like to think when i walk and it helps my body get exercise

5)Going to Dinner: it cost, the last time i did it was yesterday, it is not job related, i like to do it with people, it is planned and spontaneous at times, there is no pysical risk, it is slow paced, it frees my body of bein hungry :)

6) Dancing: its free, the last time i danced was yesterday, it is not job related, i like to do it with people or alone, it is always spontaneous, there is no physical risk, it is slow and fast paced depending on what im dancing to! dancing gives my body exercise

7)Going to Church: its free, its been too long since i last went to church, it is not job related, i like to go with people, it is almost always planned, there is no physical risk, it is slow paced, going to church is very spiritual and frees my mind

8) Going to the Movies: it costs, i went to the show last weekend, it is not job related, i like to go with people, it is mostly planned, there is no physical risk, it is slow paced (mind, body, soul N/A)

9)Looking at the Sunset: it is free, it has been maybe a month since i last watched the sunset, it is not job related, i like to do it with people, this activity is spontaneous, there is no physical risk, it is slow paced, it freess my mind

10) Looking at the Ocean: it is free, i cant remember the last time i did it, it is not job related, i like to do it alone, it is more spontaneous, there is no physical risk, it is slow paced, it frees my mind

11)Shopping: it cost!, its been a couple weeks since i last shopped, it is not job related, i like to do it alone or with people, it can be planned or spontaneous, there is no physical risk, it is slow paced (mind, body, soul N/A)

12)Listening: its free, i listen everyday, it can sometimes be school related, i listen on my own or with others, listening isnt something you plan to do, there is no physical risk, it is slow paced (mind, body, soul N/A)

13) Cooking: it cost, i cooked last week, i like to cook alone but for others, it is not job related, most times it is planned, there may be a little risk if u burn or cut yourself, it is slow paced, (mind, body, soul N/A)

14)Watching Movies: it cost to buy the movies but its free if it comes on TV, i watched a movie yesterday, it is not job related, it is mostly spontaneous, there is no risk, it is slow paced, (mind, body, soul N/A)

15)Texting: cost, i last did it a hour ago, i text alone but to other people, always spontaneous, it is not job related, there is no risk, i text fast, it sometimes frees my mind

16)Laughing: free, i last did it a hour ago, i laugh alone or with others, always spontaneous, it is not job related, there is no risk, laughing is good for the soul

17)Taking Pictures: free, i took some yesterday, i take pics alone or with others, its almost always spontaneous, it is not job related, there is no risk, (mind, body, soul N/A)

18)Singing: free, i last did it a couple days ago, i do it alone or with others, its always spontaneous, it is not job rlated, there is no risk, (mind, body, soul N/A)

19)Partying: cost, i partied a couple weeks ago, i party with people, its always planned, it is not job related, there is no risk, it frees my mind and gives my body exercise

20)Helping Others: free, i gave advice to someone a couple days ago, i give help to others but i do it alone, it is not job related, there is no risk, my soul feels good when i help others

Exercis 8: My Ideal Environment

My ideal environment would be free of all predjudice and judgement. Everyone would be free to live their life how they wanted and not be afraid of what others in the society would think. People of my ideal environment would be very different from each other; they would come in all different shapes, sizes, colors, and personalities. My ideal environment includes no poverty. People of my environment would enjoy their jobs and do them because they want to and not because they have to. Laughter and fun is a must in my ideal environment because without the two, people become so uptight and angry. Respect is also a must in my ideal environment because, i feel, without respect comes chaos.

In my ideal environment I would be more likely to persue all sorts of things that others may think is crazy. I would be more free spirited and open.

Exercise 9: My Ideal Day

My day begins in the morning, bright and early, with enough time to make breakfast for my husband and children, and get myself together for work. I walk outside my and get into my luxurious SUV. I drop my children off at school then head to work at an elementary school where I am the principle. My day will be very busy. I am not one of those principles who sits at her desk all day doing nothing and only deals with the technicalities. I will be busy trying to muster up new programs for the children in my school whether it pertains to enhancing their education or shedding light on their talents. I talk with the teachers and parents to get their insights on the happening in school and what they think should be done. I would also get suggestions from the students via student council. After a very busy and productive day at work, I head home, picking my children up from school on the way. Once home i proceed to make dinner while my children do their homework, watch tv, or whatever they choose to do during that time. My husband makes it home just in time for dinner and he brings home desert. My WHOLE family sits down and eat dinner together, talking and laughing all the while. After dinner, my day ends with watching tv/spending time with my husband/family, doing work related things, or reading a good book, either one is fine with me. I fall asleep with a smile on my face b/c my day was great and tommorow will be even better! :)

Fantasy Analysis:

Indespensable Things:

• children
• My fulfilling career
• Conversation with my family/ family time
• a place to live

Desirable Things:

• My husband
• Luxury car
• Cooking for my family

Frills:

• Having desert after dinner
• Making breakfast in the morning for my family

How woud I live in an adjusted fantasy?

I would live just fine!

What—if any—elements of that day do you already have?

• conversation with my family
• a place to live but its not my own

What elements of the adjusted ideal day are conspicuously absent from your life right now?

• my own children
• my fulfilling career
• money

What stands between you and having your adjusted ideal day tomorrow?

Well since im a nineteen year old college student a few things stand in my way of my adjusted ideal life tommorow. I have to finish school and obtain my teaching career. I then have to be a teacher for a while before I am able to become principle. I have to have children in order to have my family time. I have to get my own place of living.

ClaireLacey ♥

Taking a Look Back

The first five years of my life my mother says i was SUPER sweet as a baby doll. (she thinks im soo mean now!) She says i was very spoiled. I was very innocent not really mischieveous(sp?). As soon as i started kindergarten I became shy but eventually I opened back up.

In the first five years of my life she said all I did was read and watched tv and i never really wanted to go outside.

Growing up, my mama thought i was goin to be a lawyer because i read soo much.

Soo I asked the people who i think knows me best what they think are my greatest strengths. Here are the results:

Jamel thinks: I am a motivator, very ambitious, not a follower- unique mind does not think like others, genuine, and a good listener.

Shane thinks: good personality, very caring, a good people person at times, strong willed person, and a good sense of humor.

Courtney thinks: helpfull, people person, and loyal

Ivory thinks: understanding, gives great advice, can do great hair, caring, outgoing, DETERMINED!, a leader (i have my own mind), and i carry myself like a lady.

Tammara thinks: Your opinionated and head strong. Your confident and you work well with others.
You seek understanding and clarity in most of the things you do. This to me, is the most important character trait you have.

Sooo I really like reading. I mostly go for urban books. So i decided to read something out of my norm. That really didnt work out too well. I kept falling asleep and did not finish the group.